The Sexes Have their Set Ways, Not to be Breached
|July 29, 2014||Posted by Staff under Social Change|
This 2014 excerpt of Pacific Standard, Jly 25, is by Tom Jacobs.
For women looking to attract a man, there are advantages to being caring. But new research shows it doesn’t work the other way around. Women do not equate responsiveness in men with attractiveness or masculinity.
Women may see emotionally responsive men as overly eager to please or as insincere cads who are clumsily trying to ingratiate themselves.
In the getting-to-know-you phase, potential partners often tend to rely heavily on conventional cultural scripts of how women and men should behave toward one another.
Ed. Notes: But where do those cultural scripts come from and why do they apply to the same gender across cultures? Whatever, the main take away is that people have frames and if you want open-minded people to support your new good idea, you must push the right buttons — no matter who’s your listener nor what’s their gender.