by Rhoberta Shaler
To what extent are YOU making choices about your activities, your values and your attitudes rather than being affected, and thus controlled, by what others may think? It is difficult to be a real power performer if you think it is important to behave like everyone else.
Do you back down because some folks do not agree with what you want to do? Being confident in your ideas and your ability to think them through is the starting place for innovation. Who do you ask when you have a new and, maybe, different idea? Do you go to someone who is likely to agree with you, or someone who is likely to tell you that you are mistaken? Do you want to be supported . . . or stopped??? Many people count on others to keep them from turning in new directions or taking new risks. What is your pattern?
The extent to which other people affect you is important to examine. Some people are very dependent on those around them and are greatly influenced by the moods, attitudes and opinions of others. Others keep their own counsel and are empathetic to others while remaining true to themselves. This is preferable, isn't it? Keep friends around you who will ask you good questions and show interest in your ideas rather than giving you their judgments and raining on your parade. Sure, you may want their opinions to consider. That's helpful to your thinking. It's the folks who believe that their opinions are "facts" that are the difficulty.
Surround yourself with people who are living fully and pull each other in the direction of your dreams. The extent to which you feel that you control your future is the measure of what you will get out of life. To some folks, life is like the weather -- it just happens to them, and they think they have no control. Really, though, life is a majestic journey, an exciting adventure, that you orchestrate and direct by the hundreds of choices you make every day.
Keep it in mind!
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, is a speaker, consultant, author and executive coach. Her web site is http://www.GetLifeLInedUp.com This article appears courtesy of MediaPeak, http://mediapeak.com
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